Vocabulary
Documentation: Wishes and Reservations
Body's Needs and Operating Principles
Mind's Doubts and Counterquestions
Heart's Expectations and Emotional Responses
Will's Values and Investigatory Questions
Body's Needs and Operating Principles
Mind's Doubts and Counterquestions
We have doubts and can respond to them with counterquestions:
- Do I truly like this? How does it seem to me?
- Do I truly need this? What else should I be doing?
- Is this truly real? Would it make any difference?
- Is this truly problematic? What do I have control over?
- Is this truly reasonable? Am I able to consider the question?
- Is this truly wrong? Is this the way things should be?
- Am I truly anxious? Am I doing anything about this?
More specific examples of this structure...
Stephen Covey. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
- How does it seem to me? Seek first to understand then to be understood. Influence others by developing a deep understanding of their needs and perspectives.
- What else should I be doing? Put first things first. Prioritize and achieve your most important goals instead of constantly reacting to urgencies.
- Would it make any difference? Begin with the end in mind. Define clear measures of success and a plan to achieve them.
- What do I have control over? Be proactive. Focus and act on what you can control and influence instead of what you can’t.
- Am I able to consider the question? Sharpen the saw. Increase motivation, energy, and work/life balance by making time for renewing activities.
- Is this the way things should be? Synergize. Develop innovative solutions that leverage differences and satisfy all key stakeholders.
- Am I doing anything about this? Think win-win. Collaborate more effectively by building high-trust relationships.
Jesus's Antitheses in the Sermon on the Mount
- How does it seem to me? "Everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart."
- What else should I be doing? "First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift."
- Would it make any difference? "For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Don’t even the tax collectors do the same?"
- What do I have control over? "Neither shall you swear by your head, for you can’t make one hair white or black."
- Am I able to consider the question? "Give to him who asks you, and don’t turn away him who desires to borrow from you."
- Is this the way things should be? "Whoever puts away his wife, except for the cause of sexual immorality, makes her an adulteress."
Heart's Expectations and Emotional Responses
Will's Values and Investigatory Questions
Three variants (permutations of being, doing, thinking)